Idiotic WLS'ers

I don't go to my support group meetings not because I'm failing, but, because I can't stand to waste a minute more of my time listening to boring, stupid as hell former fatties who's only real weight loss accomplishment was talking a doctor into making a referral and a carrier into paying for the surgery.  Most of them -- not all, but most -- are boring, ask the same questions week in and week out, demand attention and reassurance for every fart and hiccup, and are only a few IQ points away from winning a Darwin Award.  I hate having this surgery in common with those types

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I agree with that. I don't think I ever learned anything at a support group meeting that has actually helped me - except to act the opposite of how so many do.

[deb]

i second that! geez, i just couldn't take the know-it-all's that dominate every topic too.

geez, I thought support groups were to provide support, not be all about you. If you can't get anything out of it, ever think of trying to help someone else?

I help those who help themselves and most of the people I have met in my support group are not trying to help themselves, they are looking for coddling.

I'm incredibly supportive of those who deserve and warrant the support, however, there is a fine line between "needing support" and "demanding attention" and that line is crossed too often. And, at what point in my post did you decide to read into it an agenda that was never stated? Who said it had to be "All About Me" ? Not only is it NEVER all about me, I don't want it to be, and would never permit it to be. I answer questions far more than I ask them, because I take the time to study and read and educate myself, thus making me one of the few who can actually (and still want to) respond, for perhaps the hundredth time in the same group of people, a reminder why you can't take Iron and Calcium at the same time.

Support Group Meetings *ARE* about support -- for EVERYONE. Not just the one person who wants to arrive each and every week, blow in, talk (no, lecture uninterrupted) about her children, her husband, her cat, her dog, why she hates (insert HMO) here, and oh yeah, why again can't we take iron and calcium together? And God help you if you interrupt. That just won't do.

I don't need ALL or even MOST of the attention. But, how about those new post ops who never get a word in, edgewise? THOSE are the people who need time to talk, be heard, and be supportive.

Not the post-op who has a 1000 word Vowel Movement every damn meeting, to the exclusion of all others, or the post-op who is a year out and can't remember the basics, or the post-op who is non-compliant every single week for the same reasons.

At what point does coming to a support group become less about support and more about taking hostages who you feel have to listen to you, because you have this surgery in common with them?

It does happen. It does bug me. And if that bugs you, so be it.