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weighty secrets - Co-Dependency?

When my husband is out of town on business, neither of us ever feels compelled to drink or party. 

When we are home together, we have a cocktail (or three) to "take the edge off"...even when we may be too tired or don't even want it. 

Its like we're a couple of kids saying, "I'll have one if you want one..do you want one? 

This behavior is so leftover from our 20's. Its time to stop. I'm too damn old too keep it up. Can you say co-dependency?

weighty secrets - confused

i'm (264 lbs) confused and afraid that i'm only with my boyfriend (of 4 years and we live together in my condo) because i don't want to be alone and want to have someone to help me through my surgery next month and so i can save money for future ps, etc., etc. 

I have been so preoccupied with myself, my weight, anxiety, etc., that we don't have a healthy relationship. plus , i have a zero sex drive (no really, i can't even think about other men). on the other hand, I sometimes think i make myself feel this way because i'm scared that i'll have to leave him because his habits of eating, drinking, smoking will get in my way after surgery. and i'm not letting anything GET IN MY WAY!!! I don't have any answers right now, except that even at my thinnest(155lbs.) i felt/was pretty "normal". 

"Normal" sounds like heaven right now.

Co-Dependency.

I think the reason that my mother in law didn't
want my husband to have gastric bypass is because she enjoyed their codependency
and wanted him to stay big and fat like her. 

I also think everytime we see
her she is trying to sabotage him by offering him diet cokes, chips, and
cookies.