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Weighty Secrets: Dissapointed?

I'm 2 years post op and haven't been to a follow appointment in a year. Why? Because I've gained 8 lbs and I am terrified of dissappointing my surgeon.

Weighty Secret: Ive gained almost all my weight back.

Ive gained almost all my weight back. Im 4 yrs post op, and feel like im in the exact same spot I was in before surgery. Im depressed, embarassed, sad. Im back in the mental tourture of trying to loose weight. WLS IS NOT A CURE, its been a tempory band aid for me leaving me in the same spot I was 4 yrs ago. Will this ever stop

...can't be the strong, beautiful woman you think you married.

I lost 80 lbs and am on my way to putting it all back on. I feel like a failure Letting myself down is hard, but seeing the disappointment in my husband's eyes when he sees me binging is the worst feeling. I am so sorry I can't be the strong, beautiful woman you think you married.

Dinner with Andrea

I found a role model in a casual friend who had gastric bypass 2 years before I did. I followed her progress, admired her dedication, envied her new found health and slimmer physique. I followed her to the surgeon's table 2 years later.

Now, I find in her a role model for an entirely different reason.  She has regained all but 30 lbs of her 120 pound loss.  I occasionally meet her for dinner not because I enjoy her company all that much (drama, whine, drama, whine), but because she's a constant visual reminder that gastric bypass is no magic bullet, no easy way out.

I sit and look at Andrea* eat -- both as an appetite suppressant and a visual reminder of just how easily we can let this opportunity slip away, wasted.

*Name changed

2-16-2007 #3

I had Gastric Bypass and lost a little over 100lbs. than it stopped and I gained it all back...I was 424 when I had surgery now over 3 years later I am almost 400lbs again..I got checked out last year to see if it stretched but they say it didn't.  I went through a lot when I had surgery..I almost died I was in hospital for 1 1/2 months 3 weeks of that I was in a CCU and the other time they put me in a normal room....I also got a nice hernia out of the deal which makes me look a lot pregnant which I am not....I watch what I eat I don't eat much but yet I have a weight problem still.  I don't know what to do...So in a way I regret having this surgery since I have gained almost all the weight back that I lost....I have tried to talk to people about this but no one seems to want to help.