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weighty secrets - no sex in five years.

My DH has not touched me in the 15 months since my surgery. We have not had sex since 2005. You would think that he would be interested since I am smaller, but he is not. He does not even try. He does not compliment me directly on how good I look or how well I am doing. 

I am tired of riding this wave of excitement by myself. I don't know if he hates the fact that we pay a loan payment every month or whether he just does not find me attractive now. 

Part of me is saddened by this and part of me wants a divorce. What we had is not there anymore. Honestly, it was not there before I started losing the weight.

Stuck in limbo land and quite jealous of happy, in-love couples.

Frigid.

 
 

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weighty secrets - NOTICE.

I am 10lbs away from my goal weight. For the past week I've been eating doritos, oreos, cinnamon buns... After eating a macaroni and cheese sandwich I forced myself to sit down and think about what I'm doing and why.

I'm afraid that I'm going to reach my goal, and my husband still won't notice me or have anything nice to say. At least while I have something to lose I can blame it on the fat.

weighty secrets - D H.

I would give up ALL the attention that other people give me due to my weight loss if my husband would notice and support me.

weighty secrets - resistance

Since I have committed to making changes in my life, I have met nothing but resistance from my spouse. I am 3 months into my 6 months of monitored weight loss. WLS should be right around the corner. I really hope he wakes up and starts to support me. Where is the Mr. Wonderful that I married? Why do I feel like I am being selfish by finally doing something for me?

weighty secrets - Crumbled.

When they tell you a good solid marriage will last the fall out after WLS, and one teetering in the middle or with any issues will fail. BELIEVE THEM. 

I never thought it would happen to me, but my marriage crumbled and I live an entirely different life. 

Not better. Not happier. 

The fact is, not only will your dress size change...so will most aspects of your life, in some way or another. Not exactly for the positive! It truly is a HUGE trade off....in more ways than one. 

More ways than you could ever imagine.

weighty secrets - Settle

I'm really scared that I am 'settling' with my current boyfriend because he doesn't seem to mind my flabby arms, belly, and thighs. I'm really scared but I'm even more scared to be alone.

weighty secret - S e x

I cant wait to get out of this marriage and look good enough to actually get more guys... and have lots of sex...GOOD sex

Weighty Secret: Stuck

Do you ever wonder if you settled and that you might just be stuck in this but you don't leave because the thought is overwhelming?

Weighty Secrets: Cheaters.

I love my husband very much but this last weekend while I was on a trip without him visiting a friend who I have had a school-like crush on for 4.5 years I cheated on him. I know I should feel guilty, but it felt so good to be wanted by someone and actually desired.

I don't know if I should tell my husband or just let it go. The bad thing is I really want it to happen again. But I love my husband - and I don't want us to break up. I just want both.....